Thursday, 14 June 2012

Don't Judge So That Ye Shall Not Be Judged!

James Harbeck shared this intriguing article on Facebook. The last two paragraphs sound like most alarming yet realistic propositions to me:

What explains this result? One provocative hypothesis is that the bias blind spot arises because of a mismatch between how we evaluate others and how we evaluate ourselves. When considering the irrational choices of a stranger, for instance, we are forced to rely on behavioral information; we see their biases from the outside, which allows us to glimpse their systematic thinking errors. However, when assessing our own bad choices, we tend to engage in elaborate introspection. We scrutinize our motivations and search for relevant reasons; we lament our mistakes to therapists and ruminate on the beliefs that led us astray. 
The problem with this introspective approach is that the driving forces behind biases—the root causes of our irrationality—are largely unconscious, which means they remain invisible to self-analysis and impermeable to intelligence. In fact, introspection can actually compound the error, blinding us to those primal processes responsible for many of our everyday failings. We spin eloquent stories, but these stories miss the point. The more we attempt to know ourselves, the less we actually understand.

We sit in judgement on others in our lives and we dwell on 'creatures of reason,' which exist only in our imagination. We humans are budles of feelings, thoughts and life. We're life; but many of us don't want to delve into 'what's life debate,' which is, fortunately not the matter in the hand. When we judge others, be it their wrong-doings, their degree of corruption or the torture they have inflicted upon us--we tend to take into the account "reason" part of their being and we just create a barrier which doesn't let their "feelings" factor play a role in our tiny calculations. On the other hand, when we introspect, unlike what most of us think happens; we tend to take into account more of "feelings." Though they give us 'our view' of what we have done to ourselves and those around us, it doesn't play out as a 'fair and balanced' judgement and this incorrect assessment becomes a seemingly insignificant but horrendous-in-proportions-as-time-passes trigger for future personal catastrophes.

Introspection might lead to gross error of judgement unless;- we realize that number of factors we take into the account while passing opinion on others are very less than the ones we use for judging our own errors in our eyes. Bias is plainly because of the self-love you may say; but 'feelings' are the ingredients in the recipe of bias-because-i-love-myself. To assess and judge others when we have so little knowledge about feelings of others is perspicuously very common practice and it leads to eternal imbalance in relations-public and personal. It might be why "Do not judge so that ye shall also not be judged" was said! But ours are very fast and furious lives because we are not cosmic omniscient beings; therefore we have to take decisions based on our 'erroneous' assessments and to run as long as we don't go to sleep.

Eckhart Tolle might give you another reason for not judging people. He would say that since we are not thinkers but witnesses of thinkers, we are not voices but observers of voices, our judging voices would go to sleep if we just watch our 'thinkers.' Judging is not good because all equations are temporary equations.

Karmically, whatever you give out you get back, because you alone are. The self is one. There is no reality in duality. Whatever you give out you're bound to get back because you give only to yourself. When you sit in the judgement, you're actually judging yourself and that is what you're bound to get back!