A hypothetical scenario: A man comes to me and he is in despair. He says: “I am in pain and agony”. To give me a hint about the ‘degree’ of pain he is going through, he suggests: “Life is hopeless; I am willing to commit suicide in a minute.” Now: As I try to relate it to the situation where I will be so hapless and dejected that committing suicide will be the only refuge; I realize: It is not necessary (in fact it is very remote possibility) that my degree of pain at which I prefer committing suicide than living, is, as same as his degree of pain at which he is very willing to commit suicide. This is, in my opinion, the core problem of Psychology: quantification of feelings, measurement and comparison is not possible.
Who has been hurt more, me or him? Always remains the question in relationships.
How good your child feels is, key in upbringing.
When, you are in a dilemma and you have to take a decision to help one of the two persons based on the degree of suffering, you cannot easily decide and your decisions might often be wrong in the absence of such discretion